Taking time out to refresh and clear my mind today I had two realisations I thought I would share with you. Plus a little on why I have always gravitated toward male friendships.
It has been a little while between ‘personal’ posts…
THE TWO REALISATIONS THAT HIT ME TODAY
Today I decided to take a walk on my own, listen to music and take a couple of hours to channel some inspiration, come what may. As I walked around the lake, I felt my mood lift.
Listening to old music, was an inspiring hit that came with a familiarity and nostalgia I’d been missing. The likes of Modest Mouse, Gomez and even a little Whitesnake (yes, I know, I am an 80’s hair band lover and proud!) made me grin like an idiot.
I came to two realisations, which I will share here.
LISTENING TO MUSIC OUTSIDE IS AMAZING
The first is that I really ought to make a solo walk or cycle a regular thing (I need my own bicycle!). While I listen to music constantly- it honestly fuels my creativity and gives me so much energy, taking it out for a walk rather than inside the house made a huge difference. There is something so rewarding in surrounding yourself with natural light and fresh air.
I NEED SOME NEW FRIENDS
The second realisation I came to is that I have to find new friends in my town. I moved here and have made friends with other fashion bloggers but I constantly miss my friendships from home. It comes to the weekends and there is this huge void, in I just wish I’d found a couple of friends to hang out with, go fishing or do some random activity to take myself away from my work.
Last week I had a great day on an advertising shoot and walked away from it with such a fresh energy. It was a modelling gig with a bunch of locations and situations. I realised that I spent the day with new people, chatting and laughing away as we all got into our characters. Sadly, the day wrapped up pretty quickly and I didn’t exchange details with the others. It left me thinking that finding yourself in a situation as an adult to make new friends can be rare but so rewarding.
BUT I’M CASTING FOR GUYS!
The other thing is that, I have always had male friends, rarely female. Now I find myself with excellent female friendships (which I am so grateful for) but I always feel like there is something missing. I ran into a couple of my male friends when I visited home recently and it was so great to see them and feel that energy. I loved that straight away they were inviting me to come try out a new gymnastics place, or to go check out the carnival rides that were in town. Not that all of my male friends and I head out for activities, generally it is just that conversation and humour I miss.
WHY I PREFER MALE FRIENDSHIPS
There are many reasons I have always gravitated toward male friendships. At times I have wondered if I tend to think like a man, in a direct way, though admittedly, not all the time. Growing up I had a number of encounters with females being bullies, so I naturally gravitated toward men who preferred to laugh than pick people’s flaws. That negative energy always brought me down, so I wanted to avoid it.
Often, I find men to be more honest and sincere. I like that. Conversations will sometimes be about topics that get me thinking a heck of a lot more, challenging me to grow and consider new angles to a situation.
Overall I have just felt more comfortable in male company. I am sure I am not alone in that?
I’d love to hear more about your own friendships. If you care to share with me, please do so in the comments below.
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