Let’s get personal! 2016 in review, the details I probably shouldn’t share but hope you may find inspiring.
2016 YOU ARE UP FOR REVIEW
With only weeks to go till Christmas, I thought it was time to review what I have learned in general. In terms of ‘events’ in 2016, I think we can all agree there have been some massively awful ones globally. Personally I have had a couple of big lifestyle changes too, though none directly affected by any of the global goings on.
Perhaps with the exception of one, actually. But I will get to that.
LESSONS 2016 TAUGHT ME
Below are the musings of what I have learned in 2016.
WE ARE ALL DORKS
So, I fessed up earlier in the year that I was a bit of a dork, find the post here, only to discover that some of you guys were too. To give a little context, I was getting upset observing so many smart, clever young people abusing their opportunities by getting into the drug culture. Fighting my own fears in my past had led to a huge shift in my drive, so I want this for other people too. Hence the reason I create a positive and inspiring space online, whatever the topic.
READ, WRITE, MEDITATE, STAY FIT
At the beginning of 2016, I decided I would search for better balance. I tried reading more- namely self development books, writing down my thoughts (taking the Time To Write Challenge) putting pen to paper regularly, sleeping better with a new bed and help from meditation. Of course I also tried a heck of a lot of local fitness places and styles, which you can catch up on here and inevitably found better strength and routine.
CHANGE IS AWESOME (IT CAN BE!)
Okay, it’s not always awesome. Many political changes in 2016 have proved that. However, there is always an upside. People reacting to change by deciding to educate themselves so as to not repeat mistakes, is a silver lining. Agreed?
Part way through winter we found out we had to move house. Worrying over where we would end up was futile, as within a week or so, we were able to find a great, brand new bright space that suits us so well. It is small, but it makes me feel productive and happy.
Inspiration can come from the most unlikely of sources.
At the beginning of the year I heard on the radio that Prince was touring unexpectedly to Melbourne and Sydney. I was considering how I could justify the plane tickets when it was announced that he would also come to Perth. Mario jumped online the second tickets were released. When we got to the concert, we found we had seats in the VERY back row. It was hilarious. But I didn’t care. It felt like he could have been performing just for me. In an arena full of people, this magical man played unaccompanied for us. He was unreal. For all the things he said, for disliking the Kardashian’s too (it’s not just me!), for encouraging people to love one another, to be kind, to follow passion, to find peace, I was blown away. I left on clouds, in love more than ever with those eyes and his presence.
Of course, news came a couple of weeks later that he had passed away. It still guts me to think he is not here anymore, giving his incredible music to the world. At least I was able to see him, to feel that magic. It has spurred me on to try harder, to create more, to investigate and to honour the people in my life.
BRAVE DECISIONS AND STRONG SUPPORT ARE PRICELESS
A couple of months ago I quit the part time job I’d had for over eleven years. I’d been so unhappy at that job, which I didn’t believe in, that it manifested into panic attacks and breakdowns over small things. When Mario encouraged me to leave I was scared at first, but he has been a huge support that I am so so grateful to have. Sticking around and compromising my integrity any longer was not going to honour myself or their business. It has made way for other opportunities and for me to learn and grow my own directions.
INSECURITY LEFT UN DEALT WITH FOR TOO LONG CAN BECOME HATRED
Someone I was friends with had become an increasingly negative presence in my life this year. It was not till a little while ago that I decided to stop making excuses for them and politely step back. Now I see from the outside how much this persons negative behaviour has impacted upon so many people. Actually, I had an outpouring of people from all areas of my work and personal life tell me they were agitated or upset by this person.
The impact was so much greater than I’d anticipated.
I realised that the cause of the negativity was largely self-doubt. This person had demonstrated signs of insecurity such as needing to regularly show off accomplishments, trying to make others feel self-doubt, feeling the need to ‘humble brag’ too often and constantly complaining. Once I learned some of these tell tale signs of self-doubt, I was able to step away and not take personally some of the passive aggressive digs made in my direction (or in the direction of my other friends).
I can now only hope that at some point this person decides to recognise what they are costing themselves by giving in to the constant doubts and instead face their fear.
2017 IS GOING TO BE A BIG ONE!
As we head into the new year, I am excited. Having done a lot of research, learning new skill sets and embracing the lessons of 2016, I feel ready to grow and create a bigger platform for my work in 2017. How about you? Are you ready?
I hope that you can reflect on your 2016 and feel as inspired. If you care to share in the comments below, it’d be wonderful to hear some of your 2017 goals or lessons learned in 2016.