How to make sure your decisions reflect your truest self. Learning to ask yourself ‘does this serve me?’ and eliminate the unnecessary.
Hey all! I can’t believe a week flew on by since I last posted in this space. Not that I didn’t think about it, or you guys. On the contrary, it seems that during the quietest moments online, the flurry of work behind the scenes is anything but slow.
ALL THINGS CONSIDERED
Over the past few weeks, I have been making it a mission to spent at least a couple of hours a week catching up for long chats with other entrepreneurs. Some of these women are fellow fashion bloggers, while others are running their own businesses. From each conversation, I walk away feeling more joy but often questioning what I am doing and how to best serve the work I want to do. This has sparked extra consideration when it comes to how I share new things, and it even led to a mid spring wardrobe clean out! Yet, clarity is one of the most vital things if you choose to live in a seemingly effortless style.
AWARENESS AND CLARITY
Being effortlessly stylish takes time.
For me, I prefer to have a considered approach to my style choices. I dislike feeling overdone and am much more comfortable when I am confident yet relaxed. There is nothing that makes me cringe more than excess. That style just doesn’t serve me. In knowing this, I can instead align myself with the things that do. This is a clarity I work toward in my style, but also in the people I choose to spend time with.
To be true to yourself, you have to be aware of what serves you best.
ASKING ‘DOES THIS SERVE ME’
This is a question I have proposed to myself of late a great deal.
When rotating my wardrobe this weekend, I had to ask ‘does this serve me’ over and over before storing winter items, choosing what to donate away and deciding which pieces to shelve to the back. The number of clothing items which I love but got the answer of ‘not so much right now’ amounts to a lot! Instead of ignoring those pieces, I pushed them to one side, instead moving the items I do plan to wear a lot into the most accessible part of my closet. The beautiful part is, I have curated within my own closet exactly the pieces that I am most excited about and more likely to reach for this season.
Asking ‘does this serve me’ just saved me time! WIN! I love efficiency and reduced stress when making decisions.
But of course, this is merely an analogy. I have been asking ‘does this serve me’ each day about what I choose to eat, who I choose to spend time with, where I spend my money and so on.
ELIMINATE THE UNNECESSARY
Bringing things into your life which ultimately do not serve you well is going to waste your time and energy.
Consciously asking yourself to evaluate in this way allows you to make sure you align yourself with your truest self. It also allows you to be more careful of what you say yes to in future. It may help you to reduce the clutter you bring into your home or steer you clear of bad foods or conversations with people that aren’t positive.
Though this outfit I am wearing here does come across as effortless, it is the perfect example of this curation. The eclectic folk inspired playsuit lifts my mood and invokes the bohemian vibes I love to embrace during summer. Effortless? Yes, but through personal curation and organisation.
THE SOCK DRAWER EXERCISE
So, now I would like to know how you get on asking ‘does this serve me?’. Try an exercise like asking yourself this when you clean out your sock drawer. I am not kidding. I want you to do it! (Then let me know below how you went!).
Open up the drawer, take everything out and before you put things back in, ask yourself this question ‘does this serve me’ again and again. Donate or toss anything that answers the question with a resounding ‘no’!
Last weekend I started my spring clean in this way. I offloaded at least six pairs of socks and four bras before realising the items I had left could fit into a small basket in my wardrobe. Now I have no use for the outdated bulky bedside drawer set! I can get rid of it and instead pick up a cute small table to put my lamp and books on. WIN!!
Let me know how this question goes for you. Do you find curation helps to reduce stress? To get things done efficiently? I would love to know!